Posted by Dinah on August 2, 2008, at 8:42:52
In reply to said goodbye to T yesterday - really struggling, posted by myrtledog on August 2, 2008, at 2:11:08
> I know that I need not feel ghastly ghastly because that will be to do with other old stuff. I know that I should feel a 'good' pain for my loss.
I don't think there are any "shoulds" in feelings. You feel what you feel. Knowing is different. It's ok to feel ghastly because you've lost someone important to you. It's ok to feel happy that you've had the time together while feeling any sort of pain you wish about your loss.
Even in death, it's not uncommon to feel pretty angry with the deceased for dying and leaving you.
It may not be in your best interests to let the negative feelings destroy the good feelings about your relationship.
But how you feel is how you feel. And I understand all too well how you feel.
((((Myrtledog))))
poster:Dinah
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