Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2008, at 14:07:40
In reply to Re: four weeks off - abandonment *trigger* » backseatdriver, posted by Dinah on August 1, 2008, at 13:39:47
Actually, I have to be fair to your therapist.
My therapist didn't always realize it.
At first he had this nasty habit of talking about regular therapy being important to my functioning. But then when he had to leave, he'd say that his absence would give me a chance to try my wings. That it was a positive experience for me.
I trained him out of that. Well, I suppose it would be more therapeutic to say that I was able to explain the conflict in his statements in such a way that he was able to understand that his attempts to be positive were actually discounting the harm his absences caused. But I suppose the fact that he could look forward to a good rant if he did it helped him in that understanding. :)
Maybe your therapist is trainable too. Or rather, perhaps you'll be able to explain the importance of the here and now relationship in such a way that he will understand. Might I suggest the books of Irving Yalom?
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