Posted by Damos on July 30, 2008, at 17:22:54
In reply to Re: That reframing thing » Damos, posted by Partlycloudy on July 29, 2008, at 18:16:47
Hey PC,
I honestly believe that this is one of the greatest gifts we can be given by anyone. The gift of being able to see other alternatives, possibilites that could be as equally true as the stories we've been telling ourselves our whole lives.
It is so powerful and profound because all we have to do is allow the possibilities that these other things could be just as true. That's it. We don't have to give up our story. We don't have to give up who we are. We don't have to change in any way shape or form. But we are left changed as a result through the simple acts of allowing and acceptance. Just getting to a place where you can entertain the idea of there being other possibilties is a huge thing. What's so wonderful is that someone cares enough and trusts us enough to give us the time and the space to find our own way to that place so that when it happens it's like 'What the...' It is a release, a relief, and yes you are left feeling more as a result because you have created a space within you that didn't exist before - a place of endless possibilities and acceptance.
What you said about your mum is right too. You don't have to, probably won't treat her differently, not consciously at least - but you'll probably find that the relationship is changed in subtle ways simply because the lense you're viewing it throught has changed.
Three big cheers for you and your T.
Love,
Damos
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