Posted by Hermitian on July 29, 2008, at 10:19:26
In reply to whew- finally a session today, posted by llurpsienoodle on July 29, 2008, at 6:59:41
Hey, sure you can talk to your husband about your SiL. You would just do what couples normally do, go out for dinner or a glass of wine or a walk in the park.
Given that you can, it's my guess that you don't want to. You'd rather dump your bucket on your therapist. That's OK I guess. But you should take stock of why. Even the circuitous route through your therapist still takes you back to a frank discussion with your spouse. Because he's the one who is going to have to toss his sister out. (Even though you say he can't.) All you are doing is prolonging the pain of having his sister be a nuisance.
The first thing they teach you in therapist school is to counsel patients not to use absolutes, i.e., "always", "never", "can't" because that self-talk makes you impotent and powerless. Is that how you want to be? (rhetorical)
I just read someplace:
"Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't - you'll be right.
There is something to be said for taking ownership.
Good Luck.
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