Posted by LittleGirlLost on July 25, 2008, at 20:16:59
In reply to crap crap crap *kind of long*, posted by raisinb on July 24, 2008, at 22:05:25
Raisin,
I probably don't have any great words of wisdom, but I do have tons of empathy! Fortunately my therapist is past child bearing age, but reading your post, I *know* I would have felt the same way you are. I related to all of your feelings even though I haven't experienced the situation. And never mind about logic! Your feelings are just feelings; there are no right or wrong. :)
I too would be jealous of her being pregnant, and I would be jealous of the baby, and to take it a step further, I'm not sure if jealous is the right word here, but I would also feel jealousy towards her husband! I wouldn't like the obvious reminder that they had sex, but jealous because he spends so much more time with her, and I want to! I have lots of mother issues myself.
So honestly, I think your feelings are natural, and this experience is a good, albeit painful opportunity for you to explore them, You don't need to hide your feelings, or protect her from them; she's probably expecting them!
This is hard, but you can do it! It's great that you didn't even think about quitting and that your learning to trust and commit. Be proud of yourself and hang in there.
LGL
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