Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2008, at 20:11:34
In reply to Do you look at T when talking?, posted by Looney Tunes on July 24, 2008, at 13:41:10
I used to look at his shoes, at his office, etc. I could tell you every crease on every shoe. Every pill on his rug. Every detail on every bit of decoration. He said I used to look in the corners of the room as if I were looking at fairies only I could see. :)
Then I felt closer to him and kept my eyes closed. Because with my eyes closed I could see him better, and get to know his every reaction.
Now I know him so well, and feel so comfortable with him, that I look at him nearly all the time. I can see him just as well with my eyes open as with my eyes closed. I can also manage to send communications with my eyes, more than receive them I think.
That's funny. I hadn't realized that before but it's true. Eye contact isn't really all that important to me. But it appears to be important to him, and it helps to communicate with him if I actually look at him.
For the first time ever last session, instead of closing my eyes to tell him something, I asked him to close his eyes. Which actually makes more sense, if I think about it.
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