Posted by Lucie Lu on July 7, 2008, at 19:37:33
In reply to How to survive termination?, posted by myrtledog on July 7, 2008, at 6:13:02
Oh, myrtledog, I feel so bad for you! A termination like that must be an incredible loss. I try not to even think about such a thing happening to my T and me although it certainly could. My T would say, first you grieve and grieve and then you move on. But I think sometimes we need help doing that under circumstances like these. I suggested in an earlier post (was it to meme?) that she look at a book I'd read excerpts of, about ambiguous loss. If I knew how to put links in to this darned thng I would do that but if you search amazon with those terms it should come up. Briefly, ambiguous loss is what happens when the one we are mourning isn't dead, just lost to us. This sounds like your situation because as a patient or client, you can't even really mourn her (except here, or maybe with another T), no one else really understands a loss like this although it is so profound for you.
I am so sorry.
(((((myrtledog)))))p.s. Dinah's post is beautiful and put into words a lot of things I couldn't express. And I agree with everyone else that startng to look for another T might be healing and provide some support.
Lucie
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