Posted by fayeroe on July 5, 2008, at 12:46:47
In reply to should you offend people?, posted by sunnydays on July 3, 2008, at 19:49:44
Hey, Sweetheart!
Should we offend people?
Due to my work, I've been thrown into a pot of different cultures and there are disagreements going on alot.
A good example that happened recently to me was I got into a heated discussion with a student about dogfighting. I am very opposed to it and he sees it as something that is accepted in his "culture".
I am so passionate in my belief that you should NEVER ever put any dog in a situation where they will be hurt that I was concerned one day that I had offended him. He was really upset and I thought he was very angry when he left class.
He came to class again and told me that he thought that his culture had been disrespected but when he thought it through, it was all about him being scared that I'll be hurt when I'm working with the Humane Society. I hunt for dogfights and then assist the local county animal control officer build a case against the men that are involved. One thing that he said to me was, "Ms. Allgood, I don't want to read about you in the paper" "I don't want you to be hurt, those people mean business when someone snitches".....
I thought that I was offended because I took his remarks to be sexist and that they also were because "my race doesn't understand the importance of dog fights"to the men who participate in them.
So, in our case, I learned something. Sometimes feeling offended masks other issues that can be worked out.
xoxox Pat
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