Posted by seldomseen on June 27, 2008, at 16:27:03
In reply to I'm crying my eyes out ~ my therapist, posted by Looney Tunes on June 26, 2008, at 21:48:02
Well, a therapist can certainly insist that you not attack them - trained for it or not, I think that is a legitimate boundary.
On the other hand, it is pretty unrealistic for him to declare that you can't get mad at him either. For me at least, anger was a part of my therapy and sometimes it was directed (through transference or otherwise) at my therapist. It still is sometimes, but we work it out.
Your statement about not understanding how to stop the transference or just things that happen seems to me like something that you need to let your therapist know - that you need some help with what he has asked you to do.
I hear you when you say that you are very hurt. I'll be the first to admit that therapy can really really suck.
However, it's always your choice about whether stay or to go. Personally, I think if you could stick it out and potentially see this issue through to resolution it may really be beneficial.
Seldom
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