Posted by rskontos on May 5, 2008, at 15:49:51
In reply to Re: Something I read today got me thinking » rskontos, posted by B2chica on May 5, 2008, at 8:06:57
B2c, I too hope not but I do know for me, at least, my memories and the escape of them, has shaped me. Well, actually what is behind them. So I guess if you look at it more in depth, meaning, the memories are shaped by events, sometimes powerful beyond belief and those events shape the person, those events being good or bad, then the memories put down in memory banks, whether remembered or not, do shape your identity is a truth I can understand. Whether or not you remember them still can impact your behavior in terms how how you act. The brain can shield you by repression of those memories, it will repress the good and the bad, it still shapes you. Now hopefully along the way, you will have additional memories that you do remember and those events shapes you more, a marriage, a graduation, good friends, a job, etc. I can understand this. I hope that we can slowly with awareness like vwoolf said replace those painful memories and re-write them with better ones so we don't go over and over them.
I am slowly learning to just be ok with my lack of memories and feelings. To be ok with my big ole dissy self.
But I am not really like therapy right now.
but that is another story.
rsk
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