Posted by I need a hug on April 30, 2008, at 19:46:52
In reply to living for yourself, posted by raisinb on April 30, 2008, at 13:34:44
raisinb,
I'm not sure how old you are or what your level of education is or if you work but here are my thoughts. I agree with all of the above posters. They are all mothers but as hard as any mother tries there has not to my knowledge been a perfect mother yet. But I'm sure, they all love their kids as much as is humanly possible. RSK is still trying to re-define herself 2 years after her daughter left for college. Philippa took care of and nurtured people as a nurse (if I'm not mistaken) and is also a mother. Muffled is a mom and she volunteers. My point is sometimes you can define yourself by what you do and that, in turn, will make your life much more meaningful. The best advice I can give you is to volunteer. Not just anywhere. Volunteer where you are working with people. Visit an elderly person in a home who has no one to vist them. There's a program where I live called "Adopt a Grandparent." Be a "BIG SISTER." Work with mentally/physically challenged kids. Volunteer at an animal shelter. I don't know if you work or not but some of these could be jobs rather than voulunteer positions. These a just a few things off the top of my head but I can tell you this: I have worked in jobs where I have worked with just 5or6 people, several people and people like the ones I have mentioned above. The ones that told me the most about who I am and what I wanted to do were the ones I suggested to you. They were also the most rewarding. Hope this helps a little. HUGS
P.S. Don't be surprised if you get some answers like, "I live for chocolate or I live for weekends."
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