Posted by 64bowtie on April 27, 2008, at 2:47:52
In reply to There are grownups younger than me, posted by Dinah on April 23, 2008, at 12:11:09
>>> I really don't know why this has been upsetting me for days now. But it has.
<<< Czek out your obligations and expectations... Lets say, others expect you to take care of them, thus obligating you to their expectations of you... This may be the picture you carry in your head of what a mature (grownup) is supposed to look like; obligated to help, and knowing how to do it...
So, younger folks not caring for anyone, but with the trappings of a successful life, leaves you upset at your missed (phantom)opportunities... Then, you might find your obligations toooo confining and desire instead to have fun and be free; internal conflictedness with no end in sight...
This sounds like the allegory of my life and why I feel I can talk to you about it... We don't have to have identicle stories to have empathy for each other's plight, now do we???
Rod
PS: This is more of my (discovered) baggage, now in my distant past... Being the middle child, the role of "enabler/placater" fits only toooo well... If I remember, you are the oldest child, tasked with being the grownup way toooo early in your life... Around here, we appreciate your acquired abilities, but still cheer you on to an even better existence...
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