Posted by Quintal on April 19, 2008, at 11:13:57
In reply to Bad Student Counselor/Psychologist Wanna-be, posted by GeneLady on April 18, 2008, at 23:15:02
This is a sensitive point for me becasue it reminds me of my pdoc, Dr. W. He has the mentality of a nasty, viscious, little boy. For years I thought it was just me projecting my feelings onto him or something, but I laughed when my social worker recently said the same thing, and she works with him every day. She said "he comes accross as the arrogant prat, doesn't he?". At times I've felt like running out of the room becuase he makes me so uncomfortable. Like you, I want to complain but I'm afaraid it would seem petty, and it is I suppose. Recently I saw his collegue and he was so much different.
I don't know what to advise. I suupose there's not a lot you can do since she's careful to be very polite in what she actually says to you. Maybe she has some sort of personality disorder? Not all of them get weeded out by the selection process. I've definately encountered this sort of behaviour before in other members of the mental health profession. Another possibility is that she doesn't know she's doing these things - maybe she's not aware of the signals her body language is sending? Nevertheless it's very irritating behaviour - mine curls his lips up into a sneer most of the time I'm talking and it's very distracting. At the last appointment, as I was leaving he wafted his hand toward the door in a gesture of dismissal and disgust - a bit like how you'd throw away a bag of dog turd or something. Left me feeling like a peice of sh*t, and I think it was meant to. But yeah, he's *usually* very polite and professional in what he says to me, but on occasions things have slipped out which show his true feelings. Once he even bashed his fist on the desk like toddler having a temper tantrum. Even his collegue jumped and shot him a look. It's very upsetting because you start to wonder if you're doing something to deserve that kind of treatment, but having met his collegue I feel more secure in the fact that it's his problem, not mine. I know of one other patient who has had similar problems with him. Again, there's just not a lot you can do about that kind of thing unless they actually say or do something abusive, but I know the frustration. Anyway, best of luck whatever you decide.
Q
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