Posted by Daisym on March 19, 2008, at 23:43:10
In reply to Re: Reparenting, posted by Phillipa on March 19, 2008, at 22:34:17
How many of us spent our childhoods hiding in the pages of books? I love Nesbit. I used to hide in my closet reading, especially Louise May Alcott. I spent whole summers at the library - it was my sanctuary.
The exercises I'm doing right now seem opposite of what you are doing and yet they are amazingly similiar. We spend a great deal of time working on trust and connection. My therapist wants to join me in the things that I find calming and soothing - so that I'm not so alone and don't feel I have to be. He keeps pointing out that I essentially parented myself as a child so he doesn't want me reparenting myself. He wants me to find comfort in relationship to other people. Gosh this is really hard.
Tuesday I was a wreck and feeling so young and small. So I took my stuffed animal with me 'cause I needed reinforcements. He loved it - it isn't the first time she has gone to therapy with me - he said he was really glad to see her again and asked me to keep her out on the couch with me, instead of in her tote bag. And we talked about how embarrassed I feel about needing these little-kid things to cope. He was funny, he said, "lots of "adult" coping stratiegies - alcohol, drugs, over-eating might feel less embarrassing but are they really healthier?" And he was just so accepting of it all.
I'll be interested to hear how this goes for you and which books you are revisiting.
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