Posted by sunnydays on February 20, 2008, at 21:13:19
In reply to Re: Therapy - Bang for the Buck?, posted by MissK on February 20, 2008, at 19:46:37
> >I said I wish that everyone could understand how severely trauma CAN affect people - that includes severely enough to not even be able to trust a professional to do their job.
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> I would just say from my point of view as someone who has experienced certain traumas and who does understand difficulties with trusting - I want to reach out too and help people understand that you can save yourself alot time (and money) by just saying what needs to be said.**** Definitely. And I have been very direct to the extent I am able, and my T says we have gone deeper with some of the relational aspects than any client he has ever had in his 20-plus years of practicing. But at the same time there are times no matter how hard I try the words will not physically come out of my mouth because there is some unconscious block or fear that stops them. It frustrates me so much, but it does help if I relax and accept it as the way it is. I often find that if I accept the fear I might be able to say a little bit of it.
It's been my experience that a therapist is pretty much ready to hear whatever 'it' is that is so difficult to say and open up about two years into your therapy or two days/a week/a month into your therapy. Kind of like going to the gynocologist - it's not fun and pretty much none of us really look forward to it but we make ourselves do it in the interest of our health.
**** Well... I'm 21 and not sexually active and haven't quite managed to make myself do that either... lol And I agree therapists are prepared for people to open up and that's the ideal situation. And if people can do it, then they should. But there is a point that I can't even force myself past in terms of being open no matter how much I want to.
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> There is a pain to seeing people struggle so hard too when you know there is an easier way and can make one equally insistent if they can provide a different perspective or approach.**** I'm sure. But it's not easier if it's actually impossible. For a long time forcing myself to say things was not possible. I sat in sessions silent trying to say things, but the words would not come out of my mouth. Luckily my T was patient.
>> I respect how you described how it is and was for you. I will try to understand more that some people really do need to take the long path to get to the point of actually getting to the heart of the matter with their therapist. Healing is what is important. I liked what your T said in response to you asking him why it took so long.
*** Me too. Sometimes he just says things perfectly and in the perfect voice. I wish that would happen all the time, but every once in a while there is just a certain 'magic' to a session.
Take care,
sunnydays
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