Posted by krycek on February 13, 2008, at 16:05:25
In reply to Re: Should I call or just wait the 2 weeks?, posted by raisinb on February 13, 2008, at 15:32:01
> Have you talked about phone call policies before? I once got very frustrated with my therapist because after seeing her for two years, she told me that I could call her any time and that she wanted me to if I needed to. I said, "I didn't know that! How was I supposed to know it was okay to call?!" She "thought it was assumed." It would have been nice, in retrospect, to try it before two years had elapsed so that I could find out she was okay with it.
> My .02 is that if you're upset enough about it for it to bother you for days, then you should call and see how he responds. I bet he'll be happy you did--but even if he isn't, at least you will know for the future. And if he finds it difficult to accept calls between sessions, he will probably explain why very gently, and it probably won't have anything to do with you, just with his schedule. But you will know where you stand with the whole thing, which is valuable. And you won't have to wait two years because you were afraid to ask :)
No, we haven't. To be honest, this is the first time I have actually felt the need to call to clarify something. I am really sensitive about other people's boundaries because I am weird about my own boundaries. I am nervous calling because I don't want to come off as too needy or something. Hey, I have an anxiety disorder...if I am not worrying about something, well, I am never not worrying about something. ;)