Posted by muffled on February 2, 2008, at 14:48:46
In reply to Re: therapists incest *triggers* » MissK, posted by zazenducke on February 2, 2008, at 12:55:50
> I would say therapists that infantalize their patients respond to them as children and try to meet their needs directly by playing a parental role and treating them *as if they were really children*-promising unfailing love and acceptance and handing out stuffed toys and generally trying to give them the parental relationship they missed.
*I not sure how that stuff works. Maybe its more a matter of the child finding out its OK to let someone close and they not hurt them? Less so trying to 'replace', as just showing it can be safe? I dunno.
>That is not what you are talking about is it? My point about emotional incest was that a parent does not involve himself in the child's sexual fantasies or thoughts. If the patient is Daddy-therapist's little girl at one moment being nurtured and supposedly having a corrective emotional attachment and the next moment discussing her sexual fantasies and experiences with the Daddy-therapist, it's incestuous.*This is just my opinion. And it IS a thing I struggle with. For example, to be intimate w/DH, where do the ikids go? How do I ensure they not looking?
So I think if T is talking specifically to an ikid an ACTUAL ikid, then that kid is NOT the same person as the T talks to about adult stuff. And T might have to talk sex stuff to ikid if ikid knows bout that stuff, which ikid shouldn't know, but some ikids do. Even as a parent myself IRL, I do have to talk to my irl kids bout appropriate touch and their bodies and puberty and all that. I do not speak of it innappropriately, but factually.> Not necessarily even unscrupulous just unwise.
*Therapy profession has a range of people like any profession. We just have to try and be aware. I know my T is often concerned with how what she does affects me. I just know she is trying her honest best.
The world is full of danger.
I may have missed the point entirely. I have bad cold and feel like crap.
Best wishes,
M
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