Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2008, at 10:06:20
In reply to Re: Thanks for everyone's input » Dinah, posted by annierose on January 8, 2008, at 22:39:14
I think it is healthy to gain distance from families of origin that aren't very healthy themselves. It's astonishing that no matter how well I feel, fifteen minutes with my mother can change all that. So keep up the good work on that.
When you mentioned your sister, I thought of your brother's death. Mourning comes in all shapes and sizes. I'm glad you realize it's not about you so much as it is about her.
It's hard to respect someone's feelings about wanting to be left alone while still making it clear that the door is open and the welcome warm should they change their minds. Quite a tightrope.
I'm glad you have your therapist to help you figure it out.
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