Posted by lovelorn on January 5, 2008, at 11:30:18
In reply to 2 questions--hope thats ok!!, posted by ladybugsmom on January 5, 2008, at 10:50:57
>So how do you let grey areas in and still keep yourself safe?
What do you define as 'grey areas', or what does 'grey areas' mean to you? Are you always so 100% sure of what you think about yourself and the world and people around you? If not, then you live with grey areas. I think most of us do.
I tend to operate with firm values and ideas that are not subject to too much change. These are my black and whites and what guide me in my decisions and actions and thoughts. The rest is all grey area to be understood and to learn from just for their own or to further myself.
I'm not sure what your association is between grey areas and keeping safe. To me, keeping safe is a matter of practicing good judgement.
>and my number 1 thing was that I wanted to feel secure in one area in my life.
Hmmm. Security. Well, there is material/physical security and emotional/mental security. I think look to the reality of your life and the people in it. Are you doing those things in life that provide security in both respects? Do you have those things that provide the sense of security in those respects. And if you do, then you have to ask yourself why you still don't feel secure.
Keep in mind though there are few 100% guarantees about anything in life. We can only make decisions and include things in our life that provide security or at least the sense of it. Maybe that is the grey area you are concerned about. You are looking for guarantees where none can be provided.
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