Posted by lovelorn on December 8, 2007, at 14:49:21
In reply to Re: Some random thoughts for a Saturday.... » Maria01, posted by Dinah on December 8, 2007, at 14:25:48
>But genuine caring can't be purchased with his services. He also says that if he doesn't genuinely care for a client, he doesn't think they would continue seeing him for long.
That's a good point Dinah. I don't think genuine caring can be purchased with the services either. I realize in my words about obligations it may sound like that. It has to be evident and come from the person themselves in what they are doing. Even if a T can't make your whole life beter from end to end, what's important is they do genuinely care when you are in that room and working on what your issues are. There are different degrees and expressions of caring, whether from T's or the average joe on the street.
It's interesting though he says that if "he" didn't care, then the client would probably not keeping coming back. He's putting the onus on the client. The client is getting something for themselves and is why they keep coming back. It may be his caring attitude, it may be something else. I keep going back to my T not because I feel a huge "caring" per se, rather there is "enough caring" there in order for me to continue to keep on working on my issues. If there weren't, then yes I would probably look elsewhere. I make no mistake about it, it's my issues that need to be dealt with. I am visiting a professional to do that. That professional provides a caring enough and knowledgeable enough environment to do that. That is both part of her obligation and evidently and thanfully part of her natural character as a person who has chosen to provide therapy as a living.
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