Posted by Maria01 on December 7, 2007, at 20:02:55
In reply to Re: Interesting discovery...(kinda long) » Maria01, posted by star008 on December 7, 2007, at 13:02:51
Hi Star008-
The school thing really weirds me out the most. My school years were horrible, and the fact that she can pick up her daughter's yearbook and see my pic makes my skin crawl. I was ugly as hell, and had zero friends..I mean zero....really pathetic. Let's put it this way: Had a been a school kid in the age of cyberbullying, I would have been bullied right into suicide.
That being said, the whole thing just seems strange. Our school years are "ours" for the most part, and then we leave them behind and move on. The fact that her daughter was in my grade...well. Was she one of the kids that had ganged up on me and made my life miserable? Did I make her life miserable in any way? Was she the one who borrowed my math notes and them put them down the toilet, or was she the one who fished them out and gave me hers to copy from? Did we have some of the same friends and just not know it? I had told my T a lot about my school years, and felt safe knowing that they were mine and mine alone. This changes that perception entirely. Like I said there is nothing stopping her from picking up one of her daughter's old yearbooks and finding my picture, etc. Adults remember two kinds of school mates: the kids that were mercilessly bullied, and the stand-out kids. Heck, I remember the names of both types of kids from my school, as do most people I know.
I'm not sure I'm jealous of her daughter...T's are completely different with their friends and families, and who knows? She might have been one of the bazillions of middle-aged women who become therapists to "right" their parenting "wrongs", or she may have been as incredible parent from the start. Hard to tell. I would like to think that her daughter does get the most attention, etc. It would really suck if her clients got all the goodies, and her daughter was left wanting..not fair at all.
Soo...yeah. Very complex feelings about this. I'm really surprised because I'm pretty laid back about the whole therapy thing. I have a relative who is a retired T, so I got a lot of the "inside scoop" over the years. Hence my feelings of surprise over the way I'm feeling.
Rambly...sorry! =)
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