Posted by lovelorn on November 29, 2007, at 11:29:10
In reply to Re: Re; inside kids**mebbe triggers**, posted by rskontos on November 29, 2007, at 10:35:27
Hi rskontos,
Probably one of the best things my T has stressed to me when we talk is : what you are feeling (or the parts of you that are feeling) is not actually happening right now. I know it seems like whatever it is is happening again in the moment - it's very real and you are going through the same hurt and break down as before but it is in fact memory, not happening and not the situation right now. So, when the feelings go amok and you/me are being 'contaminated' (like that word and image given to me by my T), it helps to remind myself that whatever caused those feelings and hurt is not happening right now. That's why the container idea is helping too - I can put whatever is going on in the container, and re center and balance myself in the present. Very hard to distinguish what is present and what is past when you are going through the f'd up feelings and emotions. It's still hard but is gettign better.
poster:lovelorn
thread:797528
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