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Re: Giving advice about Therapy » Daisym

Posted by Dinah on November 26, 2007, at 9:15:50

In reply to Giving advice about Therapy, posted by Daisym on November 25, 2007, at 23:47:02

Those do seem like pretty standard boundaries, and it might be hard to find someone who had looser ones. Especially if you used it as a screening question. :)

I guess two things come to mind. One may be that she really doesn't feel attached. And the other is that she might feel attached, and as happens to most of us one time or another, is bumping into those boundaries and remembering the limits of the relationship. Even though I've mainly come to terms with it, it still hurts now and again.

As far as frequency, that really is something to discuss with a therapist. There may be external constraints, or the therapist might not have a practice of suggesting a larger commitment of time and money to clients but waits for the client to ask, or the therapist might think it is counterproductive.

Definitely you can't compare therapies or therapists. What's right for me might be entirely wrong for someone else. And the perfect therapist for someone else might be one I wouldn't last a month with. Even therapists probably tailor therapy to the client.

The important thing is if someone thinks they're being helped.

Plus, of course, I keep in mind that my therapist might not recognize my posts if he didn't know my posting name. :) My view of what happens between us might not come close to his view, or the view of an objective observer.

I wouldn't have said anything different. And I also believe in the benefit of fighting to relationship, if the underlying fit is good enough.

 

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