Posted by star008 on November 19, 2007, at 8:57:28
In reply to my former T :( :( :( LONG, posted by Dory on November 12, 2007, at 14:56:32
dory,,
A T is taught not to respond to you in public because of the embarrassment it can cause a client. Even though you told him how you would prefer he respond he kept boundaries that he thought were appropiate. I do know how you feel. I felt the same way about my T for a long time. It finally faded after the transference went away and now the thought of being involved with him is kind of yucky..I don't think that he did it to hurt you or thinks you are garbage. A nod or something would have been nice but he probably knew how you were feeling for him and didn't want to encourage communication out of a professional setting. don't take it personally.. I think many T's would do the same thing, as rude as it sounds. Mine would probably say hi to me and leave it at that or talk for a couple of minutes if it seemed okay but I don't have the transference anymore. They must be able to tell when taht is going on. I went through the hurt feelings and feeling crushed too when it was going on. It is a difficult thing to handle but in the end, no T with any ethics will have anything to do with a client.It will go away but takes so loooong... sorry for your pain.
poster:star008
thread:794655
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20071105/msgs/795889.html