Posted by rskontos on October 27, 2007, at 10:28:31
In reply to Re: I Hate Role Playing, posted by Dinah on October 26, 2007, at 23:04:19
You know my T says after a conversation about my dad that some people use denial all their lives because they don't want to deal with the issues. So your parents are maybe subconsciously aware of the abuse but can't acknowledge it because then they would be force to deal with it. It is kinda of like if they did not actually see it then they can deny it happen. I like to think as a parent I would know my children were being abused under my own roof. I am super sensitive and I don't trust anyone but I am trying to think of normal parents without issues like myself, and I would hope they would know. In the case of sibling abuse maybe it is harder but no excuse not to help one child over another. Your parents can not accept that a0 you were abused by your brother and b) they are also being abused by him. It is easier to deny it. Horrible as parents but easier. I am so sorry they are letting you down. It sucks. I am having trouble working through my own issues with my parents, my mother is dead and I am still having trouble with how I feel about her, my father too. He is coming for Thanksgiving and I am hoping for snow so he won't come. I have very ambivent feelings toward him. Actually I have none right now. No feelings. So I cant help anyone get over it I can just say you aren't alone. Maybe tell them that you will not pick them up unless they are waiting outside. And drive off if they aren't. I guess that is mean. But somedays I think they deserve (parents that abuse their children) mean from us and I guess that isn't healthy . So maybe you shouldn't listen to me. I feel for you Poet and you will work it out probably better than me. Sorry if I haven't helped. I just wanted to say I understand even if I can't offer much else. rk
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