Posted by rskontos on October 17, 2007, at 11:13:22
In reply to Re: Therapist away for just a week » rskontos, posted by Dinah on October 16, 2007, at 20:19:04
I don't think it is silly to miss your T. You have connected, you have shared alot with him and have grown close. Plus you share a deep personal part of yourself with him and he took it in and let you know that he heard and understood. That alone makes a person what more with that person. It is human nature to want to bond even closer with someone we think understands the part of us we have been hiding from others. So no, it is not silly.
Now for the loss of that feeling I think that is because you want to be closer but yet at the same time it is a pattern of life to push away because I am sure like me you have trust issues. That is deep rooted and hard to go against and you fear being hurt so you lose the connection over time. That is why I think once a week T is necessary to maintain gains. Anything less makes it easy to stay disconnected and distant. JMHO though.
I think you explain it very well and it makes sense and makes me understand why my T and I haven't bonded yet. I still hold back and part of it has been the time in between. Again, try to keep the connection or at least remember you can connect again when you see him . Maybe for a while that is all any of us can expect because we have been in this situation of mistrust for so long it takes time to stop doing it and stay connected. Take care, rk
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