Posted by pegasus on October 10, 2007, at 10:12:19
In reply to Re: those letters - csa trigger warning, posted by DAisym on October 8, 2007, at 15:38:46
Daisy, I wish my sister were like you. You're at least experienced in dealing with this type of thing, through your own therapy and other life experiences. My sister is queen of denial of feelings. My whole family, actually. Sure, they'll yell when they get mad, but if I try to say something about how I feel in relation to them, they'll shut me up quick enough.
Truly, I had an argument with my family or origin at a Thanksgiving a while back, where we got into a big fight while playing a game (I was too slow on my turn), and I then tried to say how I felt. I got as far as, "When you rush me on my turn, I feel stupid, and . . . " They literally told me that they didn't want to hear about how I felt. They just were not interested. I'm worried I'll get that response from my sister if I really try to do this communicating.
I did manage to write the letter from a position of love. I think I will try to write one from anger next, and see what happens. I'll have to think long and hard about whether I could send either one of them. Can I handle the likely smack down?
peg
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