Posted by muffled on October 8, 2007, at 22:13:40
In reply to Re: sorry response, posted by B2chica on October 8, 2007, at 14:21:19
Maybe my response is all wrong.....
But DAMN all I could do was smile to see teen! I am SO happy she can talk too!
I used to do that lots, flip out on babble and run, but i don't do it so much now.
I think its fine for her to express her anger in writing, as long as she is also able to calm herself down.
Damn, I keep smiling. I LOVE to meet her!
Sorry she hurting, but happy she can find her 'voice'.
If she can learn to manage her anger, then she can proly come out more and it'd be OK!
Manoman, I understand rage....
So maybe I am saying wrong things, but this is my honest response. Right or wrong.You need to remember, teen is not stupid, she is angry, but OK. I think she did good in that post with editing swears and stuff. Good for her!
B2, I know its all freaky and scarey, but it'll be OK. Your people are just regular people, not crazy nutheads. They got strong emotions, and thats scarey, but you gotta remember they been carrying this anger etc for a long time, so of course their emots are strong. I have a feeling that teen will be a GREAT ally for you in the times ahead. She is smart, and she is strong.
I think possibly a good idea would be working on 'the basics' of coping, self soothing, managing strong emotions etc. You may have done this before, but its ENTIRELY possible that teen DID NOT HEAR that stuff, and therefore DOESN'T know what to do with her strong emotions. See thats a prob I had. I THOT I knew and had learned so much coping stuff, but others within hadn't heard or mebbe understood it, so we had to go thru it again.
Also, when dealing with teen, she IS a teen, and you need to keep that in mind when dealing with her. Teens tend to have difficult emotions at the best of times....
I have a strong and good feeling bout that teen of yours....
So, parts comming rounf IMHO is OK, but they need to learn coping skills too.
In my experience, it was a little chaotic at times, but once there was more understanding and acceptance and TRUST in my people, things got ALOT better.
When I am stressed, its much worse. If I am calmer, its better.
So try not to worry too much bout alla this if you can.
Try and trust and accept alla you as best you can.
Tell teen, if she not into hugs, then I'll just give her a friendly F/U croney shove. LOL, mebbe my toughie and your teen, we can have a smoke together one time.
Not gonna fool ya B2, mebbe it gonna be hard :-(, but it does get easier eventually, and its worth it.
M
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