Posted by pegasus on October 8, 2007, at 10:30:40
In reply to Self-Love Vs Self-Appreciation, posted by GimmeARepeat on October 7, 2007, at 22:21:22
I think this touches on the unanswerable question of what love is. I have a much better handle on what appreciation is. So, I know if I'm appreciating myself. But love? I don't even know what it means, really. I know that I love my husband, and my daughter, because when I really connect with them I have this numinous internal experience. Do I ever have that with myself? If I don't, does that mean I don't love myself?
This reminds me of a conversation I had with my T a while back, talking about my old T who moved away. She asked me if I loved him. I said, well . . . I'm really attached to him. Is that the same thing? She paused, and then said . . . maybe.
I'm not sure that it's even particularly helpful to try to figure this one out. Actually, if anyone finds it to be helpful, I'd be interested to hear about that. Maybe I'm missing something important.
But I know that it's helpful to notice when I appreciate myself, or to look for things about myself that I can appreciate.
peg
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