Posted by B2chica on September 25, 2007, at 8:45:55
In reply to Sexual Abuse / Rape, posted by Angel Girl on September 24, 2007, at 19:12:28
its pretty much been said Angel Girl.
but in my opinion, you need to talk about it if it is affecting your life now. and it sounds like it is. flashbacks are terrible things. they are so intrusive and upsetting
no, Thearpy wont 'make it go away', but it will help you get things out and deal with the pain/anger etc.no one wants to talk about stuff in therapy...its hard, uncomfortable and sometimes it just hurts...but i can guarantee you it hurts way worse if you let it grow on its own. Therapy becomes a safe outlet for this crud.
a wise person (from here) once told me when i was starting therapy, there are four stages to thearpy:
1. you talk about stuff you want to talk about
2. you talk about stuff you need to talk about
3. you talk about stuff you don't want to talk about
4. you talk about stuff you didn't even know you knewits some of the best advice i'd gotten...so very, very true.
but AG, i'll tell you...two years ago i was in and out of hospitals, multiple suicide attempts, i was a cutter, i was dissociating more often than i was present and i almost lost my job....
NOW, i'm still in therapy...its still hard but
i haven't been in the hospital since sept of 05, have only cut a couple times since feb of 06, and the BEST part?? i have an 8mo old BEAUTIFUL little girl!none of which would be possible without help from a Wonderful pdoc and Wonderful T's.
Therapy is not for everyone. and it's not a "cure all", its a decision you have to make for yourself. but my advice to you from what you've told us, would be to at least try it.
and it does take a few tries to find a T that 'fits'. its a matter of finding what you need. so if you try, hang in there.i wish you the Best of Luck in your decision.
and i dont' know if i've seen you here before?? my mind is terrible these days but if you're new...Welcome! and stick around. there are a great bunch of folks here that are dealing with very similar issues (including myself). and they can be a good support.
b2c.
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