Posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on September 19, 2007, at 9:45:02
In reply to Re: why do we have to fight all the time? » antigua3, posted by B2chica on September 18, 2007, at 11:59:25
Hey B2!
Sorry I am so late to this thread, I have been in my own head lately.
I am tired of fighting too, but I have no choice it seems.
I guess you have double the years on Babble than me, and it can be a great place right?Your husbands comment to you must feel so frusterating. It sucks when someone close to you does't get it about therapy.
I worry too about what I am doing to my kids when I am not my best, I don't want to mess them up.
Well my new T, who says he was a overachiever in life, that when he had kids it was an eyeopener. He thought his idealist ways of raising kids was the way to do it , from all his childhood classes , etc. Well he said he finally realized that if we try to protect our kids from everything, that when they are on their own, they will totally be unprepared for life.
He told me about the time he actually yelled at his kid for not sticking up for himself (he was in 4th grade). Well he still feel bad about it decades later, but you know what< his son doesn't even remember it. So if we are good parents most of the time, that is what counts, not the few times where we lose our cool or do something that wasn't the best thing. Now I am not talking about physical harm to them or extreme stuff, stuff like I had growing up. It seems that kids need to see us mess up a little, in order to know about the real world and real people.
So I guess I get from this is that we need to look at the whole picture of our parenting. My T even tried to be a perfect parent, but it just doesn't work that way. lol
Being a parent is tough, luckly there are some good times too.
Hang in there B2. Take care
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