Posted by seldomseen on September 16, 2007, at 9:53:02
In reply to P.S., posted by antigua3 on September 16, 2007, at 1:07:02
After years of therapy, I've learned that just because you love someone that doesn't mean that you can't be really really mad at them.
The two don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Anger doesn't have to destroy all the good things that you experienced with your father, in fact, it's not destructive or bad at all. It's just an emotion, that's all. Nothing more nothing less.
I know what you are talking about when you say it was like your father was two people.
For me, it was like I had two childhoods and two sets of parents - one filled with animals and vacations and really really good stuff. The other was almost unbearable.
But in reality, they were the same childhood adn the same people were my parents. Just because one part sucked doesn't mean that the other was awful too.
It's okay to be angry, because I don't think it in anyway negates love.
Just my thoughts, take good care.
Seldom.
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