Posted by seldomseen on September 12, 2007, at 12:51:55
In reply to cant stop crying today, posted by wishingstar on September 12, 2007, at 12:26:50
I don't know the whole story, but when someone talks about how much they loved their ex, well that usually means they are still rebounding and they are bringing that baggage right to your doorstep and asking you to carry it.
If that's the case, then I don't think that says ANYTHING AT ALL about you.
As someone who just recently got dumped by a steady boyfriend, though, I can certainly sympathize with that feeling of being unloveable. Maybe we should just get together and decide to love each other.
Or, better yet, maybe we should just decide to love ourselves no matter what the men/parents/bosses/therapists/women/"friends"/coworkers of the world think about us.
I mean, usually what everyone ELSE thinks is more a reflection of THEM and not us right?
Don't you think (I mean just a little bit) that we merit NOT being dumped on, compared to and fundamentally short-changed by the people that we reportedly love?
Don't you think we have the right to ask for what we want and get it simply because we are human beings with needs and wants like everyone else?
I don't know much, but I know that love is a two way street. NOT just one person giving and settling for whatever someone else deems to mete out because of whatever THEY'VE got going on in their heads.
You are absolutely fine and you (we) are absolutely loveable and you (we) deserve better than that!
You're damn right we do. I say rest your head easy tonight on a big soft pillow (buy one if you need to) and hug yourself until you go to sleep.
Seldom.
ps I'm glad to hear that you have been doing well up until now.
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