Posted by DAisym on September 8, 2007, at 22:46:17
In reply to Muffled and anyone.... crap continued, posted by Dory on September 8, 2007, at 22:13:30
For a very long time - years and years - I desperately wanted to just not be unhappy. I wasn't asking God to grant me joy and happiness, I was asking that the load be reduced to a managable amount. I'm not sure if I didn't believe I could be happy or if I didn't deserve it, I just knew it felt like too much to ask.
Therapy has helped me begin (a tini-tiny bit)to believe I might be allowed to be happy. And for awhile I wanted my therapist or the therapy itself to be the source of that happiness. But the truth is, happiness has to be found within one's self and one's life. I know this sounds trite. And believe me, I know it isn't easy. Sometimes life is just hard, for no reason at all. Or for bunches and bunches of reasons we have no control over.
Your therapist is just one man. If you give him all the power - for your happiness, your security...for your life - he is sure to fail. And then by default, you fall into the abyss. If you make him part of your team, a piece of your support, the mistakes he does make won't hurt as much.
I'm not saying he didn't make a mistake. I'm just saying that it doesn't negate everything he does do well that helps you.
Hang in there.
poster:DAisym
thread:781694
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20070904/msgs/781697.html