Posted by twinleaf on September 8, 2007, at 20:36:03
In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting' » twinleaf, posted by DAisym on September 8, 2007, at 20:11:56
I heard Stern a few months ago at a conference in which a psychoanalyst in training presented a five-year analysis which was very successful. She went into enormous amounts of detail about individual sessions for 45 minutes. At the end, she asked Stern why the analysis had been so successful, saying she really didn't know herself. He said, "I have no idea either- you just did the right thing!" Everyone in the auditorium laughed. Afterwards, there was a general discussion about whether these things are knowable; as you say, Stern maintained that they weren't. but others in general felt that the transmuting moments could be identified and put into words.
I had perhaps four of those moments lying down on the couch, but I was intently focussed on what I could tell about my analyst- his tone of voice, how his body posture was (I could see a leg and a hand). It's happened twice with the new one- sitting up, so I don't think being on the couch hampers it happening. It might have been important that his chair was alongside the head of the couch, rather than in back of it, but I don't know for sure. Maybe other people llying on the couch would be willing to tell us their experiences.
I agree completely- it's not an "ah-ha" moment, which would involve verbal understanding. It's being known- especially a younger part of us which has been cut off from being known previously. I never knew any of this until fairly recently, but it's really so promising and exciting. I bet all the training you are taking is wonderfully exciting.
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