Posted by Tamar on August 10, 2007, at 20:32:20
In reply to I think my T was a total *ss that last day, posted by slugdoo on August 10, 2007, at 19:17:47
> Okay, I feel hurt, okay, I feel angry, but what I can't understand how ANYONE could tell ANYONE to their face that if you died, they would not come to your funeral. Well maybe if you hated them or something, but why talk to them anyways if you did?
> But for a T to say that is just plain sh*tty and uncalled for. NO EXCUSE for that insensitive comment. What the heck is wrong with him? Okay, he can't go to every clients funeral or would want to, but to tell their client that? What a total *ss!
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> I have tried to rationalize this, and all I come up with is my T was being a cold hearted robot and I am better off without him!I agree. His statement was extremely insensitive. In fact, it was so insensitive that I think it needs interpreting.
What's going on in your work together that he needs to build up his boundaries like this? What's he protecting himself from? Did he feel you were getting too close to him emotionally because of your EMDR?
Why can't he deal with your feelings? Doesn't he understand how important he is to you? Have you told him how much you care about him?
I wish I had answers for you, but my therapist is all Dr Boundaries whenever I want to feel close to him. I don't get it. I feel like I'm in a very similar place to you.
Sorry I can't be more help...
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