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Re: delayed reactions to T--Dinah » Honore

Posted by Dinah on August 4, 2007, at 15:38:49

In reply to Re: delayed reactions to T--Dinah, posted by Honore on August 4, 2007, at 11:32:21

I've been having a lot of good feelings, although now I question whether they were based on accurate interpretations of what he did.

I think I choose to find comments amusing, if they aren't meant in a malicious way. I probably learned that from my father, who could say the most incredibly rude things even to the people he loved most. I chose to emphasize the many ways that he showed he loved me. But I guess that even if you choose to find something amusing, it can still chafe a bit.

You're right, of course, about weird. Just as there are groups I don't really fit in, I know instantly when I find a group of people who will be compatible. And they're usually a group of people who might not fit in well elsewhere as well. And they often are funnier and more interesting than your common non-weird person.

Yet.... I'm a big believer that some things are better left unspoken. I think what he said was likely one of them.

Unfortunately, he's not the least bit weird. One reason I was always amused that I chose him is that he's so unbelievably conventional. He's laid back (usually) to the point of being phlegmatic. He gets along well with most people, even the weird or annoying ones. But he cares very much about appearances, about fitting in, etc.

 

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