Posted by TherapyGirl on July 11, 2007, at 17:29:20
In reply to Re: Jammer, how's it going?, posted by jammerlich on July 11, 2007, at 11:02:34
I'm sorry. And I know you probably get tired of hearing this from me, but I know exactly what you are talking about. It is often that way for me. It's almost like I have to raise my walls so high while she's gone that it takes a few weeks to get them back down to where they were. And no matter what, it always feels like abandonment when she's gone (well, maybe not this time), so I think I react the way I did when I was a child. So it takes time to work back through those defenses. And the longing I feel is directly tied to my inability to pick up where we left off. Because emotionally that's what I need to do, but somehow I just can't pull it off and I get frustrated and miss her even more.
Is that how it is for you, too?
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