Posted by DAisym on July 2, 2007, at 1:47:49
In reply to What's Constitutes a Win?, posted by TherapyGirl on July 1, 2007, at 19:38:52
This is a really hard question because therapy isn't about winning or losing the argument, it is to help you understand yourself and your reactions to things better. I know you know that. So to that end, I think knowing that your feelings have been received and understood is possibly a win. Perhaps no change is needed, just more understanding about the origin of something, etc.
But if it is a process issue, and they make a mistake, I think acknowledgement and change equal the win. Like Dinah and the cell phone issue. It is a win because her therapist is turning off the phone.
And sometimes, even if he acknowledges something, and then changes it, it still doesn't feel like a win because I'll feel like it is just a hollow victory. I want him to get it all right the first time around!
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