Posted by Daisym on April 25, 2007, at 12:47:20
In reply to Re: little baby memories *CA trigger****, posted by TherapyGirl on April 23, 2007, at 17:02:58
My first hit when I read this wasn't that it is about someone who abused you but rather someone you attached to early on who left you before you were ready. And people can leave each other in all kinds of ways, not just physically. A depressed mother can "abandon" her baby without ever leaving the baby. What you are describing sounds like an extreme adult attachment crisis -- this NEED for this other person, even when the other person isn't good for you.
Now of course I don't have the whole story. If you were with these people and they began to treat you badly and THEN you got hooked, yeah, perhaps it is the abuse and the need to work out a different ending, to change them (to change your parents) -- to prove you are loveable.
But for sure they touched something in you that is deep and old. When you think about these two times, are there similarities? They way looked, talked, smelled, felt -- or similiarities in your life circumstances -were you feeling particularly good or bad about yourself at these times? You don't have to answer, just stuff to think about as you struggle with "why did I DO that?!"
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