Posted by canadagirl on April 22, 2007, at 20:50:39
In reply to Re: Bringing spouse to my therapist, posted by gazo on April 21, 2007, at 21:31:26
Thanks gazo,
>>there are two things.. one you mentioned, not wanting to taint the relationship you have, and the other is that as it stands he is *your* T and not the family T.. yes? <<
Yes, that's it, I don't want to share him, really, also think that the negative stuff I put out there in therapy when I'm feeling negative, will come back to haunt me in my couples session.
>>why do you think he'd say negative things? why would it bother you if he did? do you think your T would change his view of you then? why does that matter?<<
I think my husband would complain about me as he thinks I complain about him in session. But I don't really complain about him. I talk about my feelings about things. It would bother me because I'm worried T will take sides. Not meaning to, but I think he'll side with one of us. And it won't be me. Because he's said a few times "that's how men are". Well how are they? I'd like to know. I don't want it to turn into Men's Support Group, you know what I mean?
Thanks for your devil's advocate questions. It makes me think!
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