Posted by pegasus on April 17, 2007, at 9:03:11
In reply to Re: Looooooonely....... I'm Dr Looooooonely, posted by Daisym on April 16, 2007, at 15:24:38
Oh, wow, Daisy. That was exactly what you didn't need to hear. I'm sure your T doesn't lock you in his file cabinet during the weekend. It definitely doesn't seem that he does.
I had an argument about this type of thing with a prof once. This was in a counseling class. She said that if you think of your clients outside of sessions, then you're exercising poor boundaries. I was outraged. I told her that having real, not time-limited, connections with my clients was why I was going into this field in the first place. I had no intention of putting all thoughts of them aside when they left the office. She responded by challenging me to explain why I would need to think about them outside of sessions. Her point was that that was a symptom of some pathology (mainly insecurity) on my part. I told her that I found people interesting and challenging, and that I think one of the most important things we can do in life is learn to open our hearts more and more to other people. Fortunately, that kind of shut her up, but she still had a smug "I know better" grin. It's infuriating, isn't it? There are Ts out there who just don't get it. Fortunately, you have one of the ones who does. :)
Peg
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