Posted by Daisym on April 16, 2007, at 15:17:47
In reply to Therapy was a bit too much yesterday, posted by 10derHeart on April 13, 2007, at 14:38:50
I think you sent the email because you were trying to buy a bandaid for yourself. You revealed something even more personal...and you wanted warm reassurance that it was OK to reveal personal stuff (even if you already know it is OK) and you wanted comfort from him. I can almost feel the physical ache to be held and protected. I know it isn't "supposed" to be what you do together, but that doesn't mean it didn't get called up and after all, he was there. And he is safe.
You obviously hit a sensitive spot in the session, and it stinks that this happened near the end. Sometimes, I think, we are working up to it and don't even really realize it. There is this almost panic about getting our feelings out and of making that connection - then we getted Tidal-waved. (this would be my new, very technical term for it, because I don't think flooded is powerful enough to explain what it feels like.)
And then you left, so open and raw, without closure. No band-aids. So you sent the email, needing to connect and get your band-aid. I'm sorry it was so painful, but revealing things in the depth of that pain is really important and brave. I'm sure you will have a lot to talk about next time.
And even if you think you are projecting, I think it is OK to tell him that you need some overt display of caring before you leave, especially when you are crying.
I hope you found a way to have a peaceful weekend.
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