Posted by cubic_me on February 8, 2007, at 10:25:05
In reply to Re: Selfish or pain is pain is pain ***trigger*** » cubic_me, posted by zenhussy on February 8, 2007, at 10:00:23
> >>>but I do believe that some people get to such a point that living is intollerable and they shouldn't have to continue living with that pain for the sake of other people.<<<
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> and on the flip side...
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> some people get to such a point with grief, anger, and unanswered questions from *surviving the suicide of a loved one* that life is intolerable they shouldn't have to continue living with that pain.......but they do, somehow.
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> some make it, some don't. it can be a life of agony surviving a loved one's suicide...talking of the pain the deceased was in prior to their chosen death doen't trump out the pain the survivors are left to live the rest of their lives in.I definately realise this. It certainly didn't make my pain any better, and I live with the pain of her death every day. But if she was in intollerable physical pain I'd feel the same way - whether they were choosing to actively end their life or to stop treatment that would lead to inevitable death.
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> we all hurt. some manage. some don't.
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> we all end up hurt from some aspect of it. and we're not trying to discuss better, worse, richer poorer etc....just that ppl left after suicide have a hard road to travel and often revisiting the "it is okayish because they freed themself from so much pain" refrain can salt their wounds.Yes, it's a very hard road to travel. I'm not denying anyone the pain that they feel, and I'm not saying that people shouldn't feel angry etc. I was just stating how *I* feel about it, not how anyone else should feel.
> folks on this board are adults for most part and can take care of themselves...suicide is obviously a triggery subject for many.....consider this our contribution on the matter.
>I certainly wasn't intending to get in to heated discussion about it. I was just trying to express how I've rationalised it in my own mind (taking several years) to enable me to continue life with some level of functioning. I realise that everyone has their own way of coping with this, and as you say, it's a very triggery subject and close to many people's hearts.
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