Posted by one woman cine on February 7, 2007, at 8:46:26
In reply to Re: Survivors of suicide **triggers*************** » one woman cine, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on February 7, 2007, at 8:22:33
Thanks again for the post -
holocuast survivors say "someone died", when in fact they were murdered - there seems to be power in being able to name the act for what it really is.
I understand suicidal feelings and why it seems to an option - but the conflict lies there too. Hmm. (& I understand your heartfelt reasons, I don't feel manipulated.)
Suicidal feelings don't make you a bad person, neither does committing the act of suicide.
Sometimes there is nothing to do about the pain of living - you just have to wait for it be over -because everything comes and goes, even intolerable feelings. That is the point.
I don't think someone is bad "for giving in" but I find the *act* emotionally complex and for myself - having been through it - unforgivable. For me. I cannot find that forgiveness in my heart. The suicide bore the fruit of violence, both spiritually and emotionally for me. I will never be the same.
& I think your right about the tragic aspect of not being able to see the hands reaching out - that is sad, it does happen.
& we can use even painful situations to some useful end - it is just very bad someone's death precipitated that.
I just don't want anyone reading this to think that for whatever reason suicide is OK - sometimes one feels it necessary, (doesn't make you bad) but it's not OK.
It is my supreme hope that we can all come out on the other side of whatever pain we may be feeling; alive, surviving - whatever - to be able to transform the pain into something useful at some point.
(((li)))
I know you have been through alot - you are brave despite all.
poster:one woman cine
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