Posted by Dinah on January 1, 2007, at 9:43:32
In reply to Re: That body image issue again » Dinah, posted by Reggie BoStar on January 1, 2007, at 5:41:07
I'm sorry. It probably sounded like I thought that men didn't go through the same stuff as women, and I know they do. The "he" I was referring to was my therapist, and he does appear to have an extraordinary ability to accept himself exactly as he is, no matter what the topic.
My husband is thin, now, but he's got major issues from being overweight as a boy and young man. When we met, he wasn't thin and I was, and now he's thin, and I'm not. And I know both of us felt about the same way about being not thin.
The funny thing is that I fell in love with him when he was a bit overweight, and he seems to find me attractive still. It's ourselves we couldn't accept - not each other.
I avoid public beaches, too. And public swimming pools. And parties where bathing suits are standard. And parties where other clothing is standard as well. I try to be completely invisible, although my route to invisible is a bit circuitous.
It's not just fat in movies, it's unattractive too. :( Symmetrical attractive features and slim bodies have been shown in studies to be linked to attractive character traits in people's minds. I guess they take advantage of that when casting.
I wish I knew what to tell you, but sadly I clearly don't.
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