Posted by ClearSkies on November 25, 2006, at 12:47:21
In reply to T suggested Husband come with me for a session, posted by Poet on November 12, 2006, at 17:55:32
What have you decided to do, Poet? Bring him in, or not?
I brought my DH to an appointment at my therapist's request. I had expectations that TOTALLY did not get met! I was sure that all my husband's own problems and issues would be talked about, and it would turn into an enormous, and yucky, can'o'worms.
Instead, the T kept the joint session focused on the issue we had brought him in for (in my case it was about my hiding of my drinking problem). That sounds rather straightforward, but I really expected that my husband's issues with avoidance and passiveness would bubble to the surface in short order. It was nothing of the kind - the talk kept to my problems, and how best he could support me in my recovery.
You and I don't have the same issues, but I thought I would mention my experience as an example of this being a good thing.
CS
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