Posted by Jost on September 27, 2006, at 22:02:08
In reply to Re: Is this a joke? (long, as always) » Lindenblüte, posted by wishingstar on September 27, 2006, at 21:35:29
The thing is, wishingstar: it just isn't your fault.
Even if you've experienced what feels like a lack of caring from some people you've worked with, the fault, or responsibility, doesn't lie with you. No matter what you supposedly may/may not have "done" to elicit the reactions. -- That's what being a professional is all about-- especially in the mental health field.
I don't mean by this that Randy, or Laurie, even though she forgot an appointment-- or even if he neglected to call-- bad enough in themselves-- don't have personal feelings, and a personal relationship with you. If you felt something real with Randy, you were feeling something that was real. Even in "professional" contacts, people are people, and the emotions they feel really are personal.
Yet he and Laurie and Anne do have a particular responsibility not to let you down. They have a special obligation to be the person you can count on for what they promise, in the sphere that they promise it.
I'm really sorry this has happened so much recently. But even though it's happened lately, you absolutely have the right to expect, and receive more.
I hope you don't give up on yourself.
It is terribly hurtful and disappointing, but it won't always be like this, because if you have trusted people who didn't live up to it, you'll learn how to judge and to trust better as you go on. It's a difficult learning experience for all of us, and there are lots of setbacks, but also can be accomplishments that last and make changes.
Jost
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