Posted by muffled on September 27, 2006, at 10:28:19
In reply to Re: How'd it go today??, posted by Lindenblüte on September 27, 2006, at 7:58:16
> Muffled,
> you'll tell her the truth when you need to. For right now, just remember that she is trying to be a better T for you. If you want to feel good and nurtured after your session yesterday, then you deserve to! Don't question it. The important thing she was going to check on for you- well if it's still important, why not give her a call and ask her? Or, at your next meeting, you can ask her for advice on how you can be more honest about expressing your needs and expectations. Give her this little thing as an example. She might have some ways to help you overcome this fear of delivering bad news.***Truth is very important to me. VERY. I gonna have to tell her asap.
Yeah, wanna hear MORE dumd stuff??? Its nice to feel nurtured, but then I want more!!! LOL. I don't depend on nobody. So I don't want to get too attached. So its a bit of a prob.
Am I ridiculous or WHAT?
Thats funny you should say bout asking for stuff, thats what we working on now. I can ask on behalf of my kids and stuff, but not for myself. I still seem to have this deep seated self revulsion somewhere in me?
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> It's not about anybody being stupid or bad or incompetent, it's just about people who slip into habits from time to time. You have a pretty entrenched habit- and it's not just with her, I'm guessing. So, use this little miscommunication as an opportunity. Don't judge yourself. T will provide a safe bubble so that you can work on this habit together.***Yeah, thats what she does....but its not so easy....
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> (sounds like T has some habits that she's working on too? well, doesn't matter- worry about yours first. She can ask her own therapist about hers!)
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***Yeah, she has hers too! I like that she's human. She has pretty loose boundaries, which in some ways is good, been good for me anyhow. But sometimes its confusing too.
Hope your T is a good one.
Take care,
Thanks,
Muffled
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