Posted by Estella on August 19, 2006, at 22:13:27
In reply to Re: Confused and update on hypnotist » Estella, posted by antigua on August 19, 2006, at 11:07:47
Hey. I'm sorry if I've been unsupportive of your decision. Really. I guess I'll admit that I feel concerned for you. But really I'm sure we get enough of people questioning us and our decisions IRL and there is no need for that here. I'm sorry if I've said anything out of line.
Your dream is interesting...
What struck me most about it was that you wanted your t to help you understand some things that you have amnesia for. You were worried you might have done something bad... And you want your t to help you remember.
> At this point, I discover that yes, I have done something terribly wrong during my amnesia
How did you discover this? Did you 'remember'?
And the upshot is:
> I'm just so overwhelmed with disgust and hate for myself
So you don't remember some stuff but you suspect stuff happened (and that is why you don't remember). You are worried that you might 'remember' stuff that somehow shows you to be to blame or you to be at fault. But the way the theory goes it is more likely that someone has done some stuff to you. And that if you can 'remember' someone doing stuff to you then you will come to see that you aren't to blame and then you will be cured.
I still worry that... Memory doesn't really work that way.
I worry that you think your therapist can help you 'remember'. I worry about this theory that seems to construe memory as locating bits of veridical information that have been stashed away somewhere in the brain.
Most people don't remember everything...
But some people worry more about the memory gaps while others aren't really aware that they have memory gaps.
I guess in a way I think the real question is...
Do you think your t can help you remember?
Do you think that what you remember will be veridical?
Is there any way you could find out whether it is veridical or not?
Why do you think it is so important to remember?I guess in a way I think the real issue is in that latter bit.
Why do you think it is so important?
What are you afraid of?Maybe... You could deal with those issues without engaging in a process that is notorious for the development of false memories.
But that being said...
I'm sorry if I've been unsupportive. Really. I'm concerned... But after a time... People need to do what people need to do... And if you really feel like you need to do this then it is your decision and I'm sure you don't need people being unsupportive. I'm sorry.
poster:Estella
thread:677710
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20060808/msgs/678291.html